40 Lesbian Sex Positions to Help Maximize Your Pleasure
You'll wanna try these over and over again. đ„
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Whether youâre a sapphic sex pro with a fine-tuned, reliable orgasm strategy in your pocket, or new to lesbian sex and just trying to figure it all out, we put together a master list of 40 (yes, there are that many ways to have lesbian sexâand more!) lesbian sex positions you can adjust to your liking. Some of these give âemotional bonding experience,â others give âBDSM power play,â but all of them give you the possibility to feel amazing and discover your own sexual preferences and fantasies. The key to making them work? Open and honest communication.
In fact, being as open as you can with a partner about your desires, fears and/or kinky leanings can lead to sex that feels not only more intense and pleasurable, but also genuine to you and your relationship. And although that can be easier said than done, there are ways to get comfortable communicating. A Yes/No/Maybe list is a great place to start, leading to more insightful conversations about things like boundary-setting, aftercare, and more.
As you figure out what works, donât be afraid to bring in sex toys that can make it better for both you and your partner. (Scissoring, for example, can feel completely different with a lesbian-centric toy.) And donât forget foreplay, says Chelsea Downs, co-founder of sex positive toy and gear company New York Toy Collective, who recommends using pressure-point massage to enhance sensations. âRubbing the scalp, bottoms of feet, and calves can completely change the experience,â says Downs.
Below, a huge selection of positions for your testing pleasure. (And if youâre looking for someone to practice with, check out this list of lesbian dating apps.)
Assisted 69
You donât need to have a mouth-only policy with 69. Use hands and toys to experiment with different sensations, play with edging or, if youâre feeling super lazy, fire up some sex toys and let them do your biding. For a variation, each of you can grab a favorite toy, then trade off, if youâre willing to share.
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The Hot Cold
âVarying temperatures, including ice and a wet washcloth, can be a pleasant surprise,â says Downs. âTurn on some instrumental music and blindfold your partner so they can focus on the sensations.â Adjust what youâre using according to how much intensity your partner likes. One person might want the jolt of an ice cube while another might prefer a vibrator with heat.
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Amazonian Adventure
Set aside a special session to explore sensations with your partner. Get a toy and use it to explore their body. Instead of heading straight to the clit, try running it over their inner thighs, brush it across their nipples, over their ass cheeks, wherever works for them! Do this until you find their favorite spot. (Fear not, after your expedition, then you can head to the clit.)
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The Slider
Have your partner sit on your lap, but instead of doing anything fancy, just lube up your fingers, make a V shape with your first and middle fingers and slide them along either side of their clitoris and over their vulva. Use long, slow, consistent strokes for a slow build to huge orgasm.
The Made To Order
Sit your partner on the kitchen counter and you'll be in the right spot to provide whatever they wantâsome slippery fingering, oral and/or focused treatment with a really good toy. Make it even hotter by having them put their feet on your shoulders or wrap their legs around you.
The Bumper Cars
A strap-on doesn't only have to be used for vaginal penetrationâit's also great for anal. Try a spooning position for gentle entry while the little spoon uses a rabbit vibrator for amazing triple stimulation. Choosing a strap-on harness that holds a bullet vibe for the wearer ensures that's everyone's happy. Real happy.
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The Daily Grind
If you both love the kind of orgasms that come from grinding against something, create a win-win situation with a mutual hand grind. Lie down side-by-side. Fill your hand with lube and cup it under their vulva, while they do the same for you. As you get more turned on thrusting against their hand, you can feel their body responding to your hand and, well, it's pretty intense. Turn your heads to gaze at each other to make it even more intimate.
Come As You Are
Take opposite ends of the couch, lean back on the arms and masturbate with each other for a surprisingly intimate experience. There are few things hotter than watching someone lose it for/with you and they'll love seeing you do the same. It's part-performative, part-voyeuristic, plus you get to touch yourself exactly as you please (which can double as a teachable moment).
Double Trouble
Go off-label and combine two toys to design your own super intense sensations. Have your partner lie back comfortably so they can use a clit suction-type toy on themselves. As they get more turned on, use a dildo or internal vibe inside their vagina. If you're feeling a little Dom-y, go ahead and make them beg for it.
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The Lean In
Have your partner lie on their back. Go down on them, paying extra attention to their clitoris with your mouth, while you also penetrate them with two fingers, or three if you really want to Lean In. You really can have it all.
BTW: âResearch a while back suggested lesbian and bi women were the most likely to be ejaculators. And why? I think it's the fingers-plus-oral combo,â says Carol Queen, PhD, Good Vibes Staff Sexologist. âA waterproof throw is perfect for squirting.â
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The Laconic Lounger
Have your partner lie on their back with two pillows under their upper back. Kneel between their legs and draw slow circles around their clitoris with one hand. Use your free hand to massage their breasts, or just have a hot makeout sesh. What's not to like?
The All-Hands Meeting
Have your partner get on all fours. Finger their butthole (very slowly, with consent, and with lube!) with your thumb while fingering their vagina with your index finger. âPinchâ your two fingers together from opposite directions inside of them to create an incredible feeling for them via internal stimulation. Then, with your free hand, play with their nipples or lips. When I said all-hands, I meant all hands.
The Olympic Gymnast
Lie on your back with your legs in the air. Have your partner face you and lean into your legs, pushing them behind your ears, while you rub your pelvic bones together. This allows for more direct contact between you two, without your legs getting in the way. Pro-tip: It really helps if youâre flexible!
The Breast Enhancement
Kneel facing your sitting partner and lean in until your nipples are touching. Then rub their clit, either with your hand or with a vibrator, stopping occasionally to kiss their breasts and nipples. Good vibes all around.
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The Rocket
You know the Beyoncé song that starts, "Let me sit this aaaaass on you"? That's what you're going for here. Kneel over their shoulders and let your butt brush against their nipples while their tongue gets intimate with your clitoris. You'll be crazy in love with this position.
The Double Duty
Have your partner get on all fours with their pelvis tilted up. Kneel over their calves, rubbing your clitoris against their leg. Start by licking their clitoris and vulva, but if they're up for it, move on to anilingus. The contrast will blow their mind.
The Kinky Jockey
Have your partner get on all fours, then straddle their hips. Tug on their hair while you rub your clitoris against their tailbone. Getting a little Fifty Shades of Grey is always hot.
Defying Gravity
If you're really feeling ambitious, have your partner sit in a chair (or on the couch). Facing away from them, kneel, straddling them. Bend over so your hips are in the air and touch your hands to the ground for support. Now they have all-access for oral sex, and you're about to get one hell of a head rush.
The Lazy 69
Lie on your sides facing each other's crotches. Go down on each otherâjust like a 69, but on your sides. You can even rest your head on their inner thigh if you get tired. Simultaneously getting each other off without the neck strain? Yes, please!
If you're opting for a marathon cunnilingus session, sex furniture, like positioning pillows, can be helpful for people of any gender mix and orientation, says Queen. âWhen you're between someone's legs, it really helps if you can hold your neck in a straight position, not bent. A wedge can fit under the chest (or as a ramp to their thigh, if you are coming in from the side), and add to comfort and stamina.â
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The Lovely Lap Dance
Sit on a slightly-reclined chair with one knee bent up and your foot resting on the edge of the chair. Have your partner straddle your raised leg and grind their clitoris against your thigh. Just lean back and enjoy the ride.
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